Having a little cry because the world is so fucked up.
I just wish I could take everyone that was hurting and give them cuddles and keep them safe. And we could live on a special Issy retreat and we would plant trees and make vego food and be eco-warriors and crap because I’m a fucking dictator.
But seriously. I’m sorry for your hurting. I love you all.
This happens to me all the time, too. Usually that’s when I bake a bunch of cookies and then go out and about town giving them away to people or somesuch nonsense. I mean people can be sad a lot, but at least you can make someone smile for a second. Keeping them safe isn’t nearly as important as keeping them laughing.
-But stop. What about this? I can’t rate the word nearly as high as that.
…I’ll have to translate it some other way.
Unless I’m mistaken, the true meaning is this:
In the beginning was the mind.
But let’s not be in a hurry with the first line. Can it be the mind that creates the world?
Surely we ought to read: In the beginning was the energy.
But no sooner do I write this than something tells me not to stop there. And now I see the light and set down confidently:
In the beginning was the act.”
Last year, Rihanna also sang in “Rude Boy” that she likes the way “you pull my hair.” Big deal, you say? Then try last summer’s duet with the rapper Eminem called “Love The Way You Lie.” … These songs are not a pose – or it’s all part of a long-running publicity stunt to spur bad-girl “buzz.” In March, she told Rolling Stone magazine “I like to be spanked. Being tied up is fun. I like to keep it spontaneous. Sometimes whips and chains can be overly planned – you gotta stop, get the whip from the drawer downstairs. I’d rather have him use his hands.” …
Whether her affinity for violence is reality or fakery is irrelevant to me. Either way it’s a grotesque violation of her womanhood. And for that, she is given star treatment. For that, she is surrounded by all the trappings of fame and fortune.
What was that about her selfish decision possibly resulting in some young girl getting killed, again?” —
L. Brent Bozell III, “Exploiting Domestic Violence?”
Really? If Mr. Bozell here thinks songs reflect reality, perhaps Johnny Cash should not have been lauded by then-President George W. Bush. Instead, Cash should have been investigated for shooting a man in Reno just to watch him die and busting a chair right across his dad’s teeth, then drawing a gun on his own father for naming him Sue. Right?
Also, Bozell is confusing consensual BDSM between consenting adults with domestic violence. Spankings are not equal to a beating that leaves lumps on an individual’s forehead, and splits open the person’s lip. And how is understanding her own sexual likes and dislikes “an affinity for violence” and “a grotesque violation of her womanhood”?
Fine, okay - for all we know, it’s just something she says to sell her music. But does this mean women who engage in BDSM desire to be beaten viciously in a parked car? No. Partners who practice BDSM typically discuss limits and have safe words. This is part of mutual consent. Domestic violence is completely different. Desiring to be spanked is not desiring to be beaten. End of story.
I wish I could shake every person who thinks BDSM is related to DV.
What Bozell is exploiting here is the commonality of victim blaming. That women who express their sexuality, especially those who should have ‘learnt their lesson’ like Rhianna, are encouraging domestic violence. Bozell is irresponsibly perpetuating the notion that womanhood comprises a demure and wholesome protection of one’s chastity, and should never involve open sexual expression. In Bozell’s mind, this would be ‘asking for it’. Domestic violence and sexual assault are not consensual, Rhianna’s wordplay is. Furthermore, the song ‘Love The Way You Lie’ is a lyrical discussion of the insidious problem of intimate partner violence, particularly focusing on the unhealthy dynamic that develops so often in relationships. The song does not celebrate intimate partner abuse, it does the absolute opposite - it laments it’s very existence.
What is it that makes people so damn scared about women being comfortable enough to express their sexuality? BDSM is NOT the same thing as encouraging DV, much like how enjoying sex and dressing to show it is NOT asking to be raped. In cases of abuse, it is always the abuser’s fault. It is most certainly not the fault of the person being abused. And yet everywhere we’re being taught that it is. This only encourages the thought that really it’s okay to abuse someone. I don’t really follow pop star scandals, but when this all came out who do you think the attention was on? Maybe Chris, because he decided hitting his girlfriend was okay? Was there a public outrage against him? Maybe a little. But most of the focus was on Rihanna, whether good or bad. The lesson we need to teach our children is to not hit, not to avoid being hit.